If you’re a single woman in your 20’s, people just can’t help but repeatedly ask you why you aren’t in a relationship or married. These comments and questions on your non-existent love life multiply by ten times if you have friends who are in serious relationships and they can’t help but see you as a sad and lonely woman craving for love.
Fearing that you might just end up as a crazy cat lady, your friends, acquaintances and even random people you meet will offer a whole lot of unsolicited advice on how to find Mr Right. While most of them are well-meaning, here’s why you should never take any of these six pieces of advice seriously:
1. Stop being so picky
I have been single for most of my life and every time I have revealed that I haven’t been dating anyone in months or even years, the first question I am asked is, ‘Are you being too picky?’There’s nothing wrong in having standards and not settling for bad or even mediocre relationships. It shows that have self-esteem and you’re strong enough to survive on your own without having to bow down to peer pressure and get into a relationship or marriage because that’s what society expects from you in your mid-20’s.
2. Never make the first move
Women are constantly told to wait for the guy to ask you out on a date and let him initiate the first kiss or sex. These dating rules are old fashioned and don’t apply if you belong to the 21st century. If you have a crush on someone, approach him and ask him out. Don’t sit around waiting for him to muster the courage. Instead, take matters in your own hands and let him know you would like to get to know him better. He will respect you for your assertiveness. Did you know, 72% of Indian men said they want women to propose?
3. Online dating is for desperate people
Almost all my friends are on tinder and these were the same people who would tell me online dating is only for desperate losers! Just accept it, our lives revolve around social media and technology. We spend a lot more time in front of our computer screens and texting on WhatsApp than spending time with people in real life. If your work life doesn’t give you enough time for socializing, take full advantage of dating apps to find someone like-minded. Here are 5ways to crack online dating.
4. Wear more make-up or gain/lose weight to find a boyfriend
While there’s nothing wrong in taking care of yourself on working on your appearance to boost your own self-confidence, you need not radically change who you are just to impress men. When you find the right person, he will accept you just the way you are.
5. Let your date think he’s smarter than you
Ladies, never dumb yourself down for your date. Being a bimbo is in no way attractive and if your date prefers being around women who are not very bright, you’re wasting your time with him. Invest your time and efforts in someone who isn’t intimidated by thoughts, opinions and job title.
6. If he doesn’t shower you with gifts, he’s not worth your time
I’ve had friends who believed that they were entitled to gifts and unlimited free meals from their dates. If it’s the first date, there’s nothing wrong in allowing him to pay. Once you start dating, offer to pay for meals and drinks from time to time. Men enjoy free food as well! Don’t expect him to spend a fortune by showering you with gifts either. If you have such unrealistic expectations from your dating life, you might just end up as the stereotypical lonely woman. Here are 6 reasons why you are still single.
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